Love, Their Mother

The only time I blog is when I'm angry or hurt. Well today family, I am pissed. You see, I just came from child support court for the umpteenth time listening to this fella nonchalantly say why he can't provide for his child...our child.

Theodore Henberg once said “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” So, I put a twist on Mr. Hensbergs quote and used it to guide me through this. So this is an open letter to him...but you can feel free to change a couple of adjectives and pass it on as your own.

Dear You,

During my drive from the hearing, I smiled to myself as I thought that Uncle Sam pays benefits on a monthly basis but quickly realized that the thought wasn't God. So, instead of wishing total death and damnation upon you, I instead prayed that you would be blessed beyond measure. I'm not talking about just financial blessing, because it's a proven fact that money does not bring joy. What I mean by blessings is the joy of being a true parent.

Basically since the birth of our child, I have been both mom and dad. Judging by their outcome, I have to say, I’ve done a good job. See, I’ve done ok providing financially and have providing them with many worldly good. But just recently, in the last 7 years as a matter of fact, I have learned the joys of being a parent. I used to think that being a good mom was making sure that my babies were dressed nice, were involved in activities and had a few dollars in their pockets. A good mom took her children on trips and vacations. I wasted a lot of time working two or three jobs trying to attain “things”. I never wanted my babies to do without these “things” because you were not there. Little did I know that the only thing that they wanted was for me to be their mom and for you to be their dad.

You see, even though I totally think that you are a deadbeat and an official waste of skin, I had to realize that I love you beyond measure because you are my baby daddy. And because I love you, I hold you in the highest regard. Whatever my babies become, it’s because of you. Where ever my babies go, it’s because of you. Even in your absence, you are still teaching. Our son has learned the importance of loving himself so that he can adequately love a woman. As your daughter, she longs to feel the love that she is missing from you.

As just as I began to end my prayer, I realized that what you are lacking is God. I’ve known you for years and have never seen you kneel in prayer. So, today, I gave you some of my God. He’s the God that has guided me to guide your child. He is the one that has protected your daughter’s heart when she was heartbroken. He is the one that she seeks when she is in pain or needs to comforted. He is the ONE that your son attempts to model after and seeks daily. I never thought that my children could love another man so much. He has taken care of what you have neglected. He had cultivated the seed that you have planted

Yeah, Mr. Hensberg was right… I just read it wrong. “The most important thing a FATHER can do for his children is to love...

(Sincerely,)

Their Mother